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Of Obedience, Scandal and other things

Most of this post was written over the last week. Well I had to wait till today to post as I already promised Tuesday Tuesday posts. So well, here it is.

What is it with guys and their “she is a woman so whatever I ask her to do she must do”? I was in church and a friend beckoned (sounds so ancient yeah!!!) and I didn’t. Next thing he goes on about how I will be married soon and I should start to learn obedience (insert submission). And me I just laughed. What has your calling me and me not answering got to do with my marriage? I didn’t answer you now means I am disobedient? Or that means I would be disobedient to my husband? I stopped short of telling him “if you want to enter that submission matter, my own Bible says wives submit to their own (key word OWN) husbands, not our, not your, not all men, not all males, not….. Ish

Or when people feel because I grew up in Ibadan, I must know how to make amala. And when I say I can’t I get all sorts of reactions and comments from “if your husband likes it yada yana” to those who tell me straight up I should go learn it. Please my I can cook other stuff and can even pound apparently doesn’t matter as long as I am “an Ibadan girl (never mind that I am not from Ibadan o), and I can’t make amala”. Ish. If husband likes amala, he should be prepared to make it o. My inability to make amala doesn’t make me less a woman.

I was going to blog about Scandal last week but once again I was bound by my Tuesday post. So angelsbeauty beat me to it. Funny what i had in mind was what she blogged about so no point reinventing the wheel. Why was I going to blog about it? I was gisting with a colleague and he called me Miss Pope (just because I said I liked Scandal). And am like heck no!! He then goes on to talk about how my liking it means I support adultery. Let me state here. I DO NOT AND WILL NEVER SUPPORT ADULTERY.

However, whilst I don’t support Olitz, I always wonder what would have happened if Fitz and Olivia met much earlier. Before Mellie. Makes me think a lot about our choices in marriage. We all (we who watch it) know the “circumstances” of Mellie and Fitz’s marriage. Fast forward some years and he meets this “great” woman he “loves” and he is stuck in a marriage he wants out of. But he can’t. Biko, shine your eyes well and pray hard before you get in. Once in, you can’t get out. And there would always be that great woman or man, even when you are with your right choice.

That said, I just like angelsbeauty watch it for the intrigues and all. Pure entertainment. And yes, the Olivia Pope look and smartness and nack for fixing things. #astormiscoming #scandal. Looking forward to this season yo!!! So many stories that Ms. Shonda can hit us with. Rowan (I so detest that man), Olitz, Mellie, Cy, Jake (oh yes him, sure we haven’t heard the last of him). And Lisa Kudrow is in this season. Yayyyyy!!!!!!! I hope this storm won’t “sweep us away”. And hopefully it won’t become a #Revenge. To think there is season 3 of Revenge. I pray, what is the script writer thinking?

I usually wonder what goes on in the minds of people who drive silly in the rain. Like seriously, it is freaking raining and one has to be extra careful. I kent be thinking twice as much as I think and now come and add your own madness to it. And we wonder why there are a lotta accidents on the road when it rains. Osi.

Weddings weddings weddings. The amount I have spent on aso-ebi this year ehn!!! And the year aint ended yet. *sigh*. God help me.

Tada friends.

Have a great week.

Abundant life is enjoying here on earth and in heaven. Omo jaiye jaiye, omo jorun jorun– Pastor Femi Atoyebi

This is so me!!!!!
This is so me!!!!!


Not sure a lot of people watch the series Revenge. Season one was pretty complicated and one I did enjoy but it aint got nothing on season two which is just nine episodes along. *sigh*. This winter finale is killing and I can’t wait till 2013. However, that isn’t the reason for this post.

Re.venge [ri-venj]

verb (used with object)

1. to exact punishment or rxipation for a wrong on behalf of, especially in a resentful or vindictive spirit.

2. to take vengeance for; inflict punishment for; avenge.

– verb (used without object)

3. to take revenge.


4. the act of revenging; retaliation for injures or wrongs; vengeance.

5. something done in vengeance.

6. the desire to revenge; vindictiveness.

7. an opportunity to retaliate or gain satisfaction.

Ok, enough of English lessons. The aim of this somewhat pointless post is “what is the purpose of revenge”. To what end do we seek to avenge a wrong done to us or someone close to us. After we have revenged, what satisfaction do we derive.  The story is based on a young girl whose father was accused of a crime he didn’t commit and was killed. Her childhood was destroyed. Her life, her family was destroyed. She ended up in Juve and at the moment is ready to destroy everybody who was involved in her father’s death.

She has a right to be angry right? A right to want to avenge her father’s death. She never had the kind of childhood a lot of us had and should rightly so avenge yeah? But to what end? When she is done destroying the lives of these other people, what next? It is a good story line, pretty complicated at sometimes and really a good watch but I find myself asking almost after every episode, “where does this end”?

In the course of this revenge, she has lost a very good male friend (Jack) to faux Amanda. I remember in one episode in season 1, Nolan asked her to give up on her plans and enjoy her life. Sail away with Jack he advised. But I guess the quest to bring these people down has so consumed her, she can’t and won’t listen to sound advice. We see faux Amanda tell her again in Sunday’s episode that she can live her life. I just want to ask, what is the “reward” gained for revenge. She is young, has many years to live, yet she decides to spend her youthful years avenging the wrong done to her father.

Another revenge story unfolding is the Ryan brothers who want to avenge their father’s death. Since the person they assumed killed their father is dead, the want to take it out on his sons and grandson. A new baby is born into this web who knows nothing about what his grandfather presumably did but is in as much danger as his father and his uncle. All because some people want to avenge their father’s death.

Once again, I ask, to what end? What is the reward for avenging a wrong done? What do you gain? I know it isn’t easy to let go of hurt, but is it really worth it? If we all go about revenging, who would be left on earth biko? Or if God decides to “revenge”?

Side note:

Romans 12:17-21

Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honourable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Matthew 5:38-39

“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.

1 Thessalonians 5:15

See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone.