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Of Obedience, Scandal and other things

Most of this post was written over the last week. Well I had to wait till today to post as I already promised Tuesday Tuesday posts. So well, here it is.

What is it with guys and their “she is a woman so whatever I ask her to do she must do”? I was in church and a friend beckoned (sounds so ancient yeah!!!) and I didn’t. Next thing he goes on about how I will be married soon and I should start to learn obedience (insert submission). And me I just laughed. What has your calling me and me not answering got to do with my marriage? I didn’t answer you now means I am disobedient? Or that means I would be disobedient to my husband? I stopped short of telling him “if you want to enter that submission matter, my own Bible says wives submit to their own (key word OWN) husbands, not our, not your, not all men, not all males, not….. Ish

Or when people feel because I grew up in Ibadan, I must know how to make amala. And when I say I can’t I get all sorts of reactions and comments from “if your husband likes it yada yana” to those who tell me straight up I should go learn it. Please my I can cook other stuff and can even pound apparently doesn’t matter as long as I am “an Ibadan girl (never mind that I am not from Ibadan o), and I can’t make amala”. Ish. If husband likes amala, he should be prepared to make it o. My inability to make amala doesn’t make me less a woman.

I was going to blog about Scandal last week but once again I was bound by my Tuesday post. So angelsbeauty beat me to it. Funny what i had in mind was what she blogged about so no point reinventing the wheel. Why was I going to blog about it? I was gisting with a colleague and he called me Miss Pope (just because I said I liked Scandal). And am like heck no!! He then goes on to talk about how my liking it means I support adultery. Let me state here. I DO NOT AND WILL NEVER SUPPORT ADULTERY.

However, whilst I don’t support Olitz, I always wonder what would have happened if Fitz and Olivia met much earlier. Before Mellie. Makes me think a lot about our choices in marriage. We all (we who watch it) know the “circumstances” of Mellie and Fitz’s marriage. Fast forward some years and he meets this “great” woman he “loves” and he is stuck in a marriage he wants out of. But he can’t. Biko, shine your eyes well and pray hard before you get in. Once in, you can’t get out. And there would always be that great woman or man, even when you are with your right choice.

That said, I just like angelsbeauty watch it for the intrigues and all. Pure entertainment. And yes, the Olivia Pope look and smartness and nack for fixing things. #astormiscoming #scandal. Looking forward to this season yo!!! So many stories that Ms. Shonda can hit us with. Rowan (I so detest that man), Olitz, Mellie, Cy, Jake (oh yes him, sure we haven’t heard the last of him). And Lisa Kudrow is in this season. Yayyyyy!!!!!!! I hope this storm won’t “sweep us away”. And hopefully it won’t become a #Revenge. To think there is season 3 of Revenge. I pray, what is the script writer thinking?

I usually wonder what goes on in the minds of people who drive silly in the rain. Like seriously, it is freaking raining and one has to be extra careful. I kent be thinking twice as much as I think and now come and add your own madness to it. And we wonder why there are a lotta accidents on the road when it rains. Osi.

Weddings weddings weddings. The amount I have spent on aso-ebi this year ehn!!! And the year aint ended yet. *sigh*. God help me.

Tada friends.

Have a great week.

Abundant life is enjoying here on earth and in heaven. Omo jaiye jaiye, omo jorun jorun– Pastor Femi Atoyebi

This is so me!!!!!
This is so me!!!!!
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How did we get here?

How and when did we get to the point where we get “paranoid” when people stop to help?

My car broke down a couple of weeks ago about 9:30 pm on Adeola Odeku and a zillion  number of cars sped past without even stopping. Was I surprised? Heck NO! About 20 minutes after, a car stops and I remember double checking to be sure my windows were up, my car locked (never mind that my windows hardly go down and my car is forever locked). Dude does help move the car outta the way but all I (and my colleague) kept doing was “suspecting” the guy. I still think about that incident and ask how did we get to this point. Where when someone helps, we believe the person has ulterior motives. The ones who don’t help, we believe that’s the way of life. If they did, we would have been surprised. Don’t get me wrong. I know it is madly dangerous to “receive” help from strangers yeah… But really, when did we cross that line?

You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it that you are not alarmed. Such things must happen, but the end is still to come. 

                                                                                       – Matthew 24:6

How did we get to the point where we believe the solution to a problem is to go to war?

I have been thinking about this Syria issue since the chemical weapon incident. Like most of us, since e no concern me, I just read about it and carried face. Till two weeks ago. Let me be clear here. I am not supporting Assad and the whole ish BUT the way US, UK and their allies are carrying this issue, I wonder if anybody has even stopped to THINK. I just believe there are other ways this can be handled and SHOULD have been handled all along. I mean this “war” has been on for about 2 years.

1. What IF (big if), it was the rebels who used the chemical weapon? Please don’t argue that they can’t access such weapons. For all we care and know, even the US might have supplied the weapons to have a reason to oust Assad. Just like someone asking how Boko Haram got their weapons. Or where Al-Qaeda got its weapons from. I keep seeing a lot of “it is likely”, “intelligence points to the fact that” e.t.c. YET there is no proof. Still yet, US is preparing to attack Syria.

2. Even if it is Assad and you get him out, are we forgetting Egypt, Libya, so quickly? What happens when power is handed over to rebels?

3. Who would suffer the most when Syria is attacked? Isn’t it the citizens US and its cronies “want to protect”?

4. Am I the only one who finds it disconcerting that as at Monday or Tuesday, out of about 37 US Senators who wanted to “go to war”, more than half were Republicans? What is with these people and war?

How and when did we get to this point? Signs of the times yeah!!!!

In unrelated ish, I need the missing part of this song (the lines xxxxxx). I used to know the lyrics (as a child I think). Not sure of it is KSA or Obey or neither sef wey sing am.

Bi ban se pe Oluwa

xxxxxxx

xxxxxxx

Nigba tesu gbogun ti wa

Ope ni f’Oluwa, Oba wa Olore

A se (or is it ka se) ka, kabiyesi kabiyesi re

A fope fun Jehova

To gbawa lowo ota

Adupe Oluwa

I tried with my spelling yeah? *big smile*

Oya who knows the missing parts? A prize ….. Just help a sister biko.

Yayyyyy, we entering into the “-ber” months…. Ya’all know what that means. 2 countdowns BABYYYYY. The girl’s birthday and Christmas…. Kent wait…. Ki Olorun so wa ju igbayen lo… Wow, rolling in Yoruba tonight. I believe the interpretation is something along the lines of God keeping us more than those dates right? I used to think I knew Yoruba. Well, till I started working with my team… Lord, I need lessons.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend and go to church tomorrow.

Tada

 

Revenge

Not sure a lot of people watch the series Revenge. Season one was pretty complicated and one I did enjoy but it aint got nothing on season two which is just nine episodes along. *sigh*. This winter finale is killing and I can’t wait till 2013. However, that isn’t the reason for this post.

Re.venge [ri-venj]

verb (used with object)

1. to exact punishment or rxipation for a wrong on behalf of, especially in a resentful or vindictive spirit.

2. to take vengeance for; inflict punishment for; avenge.

– verb (used without object)

3. to take revenge.

-noun

4. the act of revenging; retaliation for injures or wrongs; vengeance.

5. something done in vengeance.

6. the desire to revenge; vindictiveness.

7. an opportunity to retaliate or gain satisfaction.

Ok, enough of English lessons. The aim of this somewhat pointless post is “what is the purpose of revenge”. To what end do we seek to avenge a wrong done to us or someone close to us. After we have revenged, what satisfaction do we derive.  The story is based on a young girl whose father was accused of a crime he didn’t commit and was killed. Her childhood was destroyed. Her life, her family was destroyed. She ended up in Juve and at the moment is ready to destroy everybody who was involved in her father’s death.

She has a right to be angry right? A right to want to avenge her father’s death. She never had the kind of childhood a lot of us had and should rightly so avenge yeah? But to what end? When she is done destroying the lives of these other people, what next? It is a good story line, pretty complicated at sometimes and really a good watch but I find myself asking almost after every episode, “where does this end”?

In the course of this revenge, she has lost a very good male friend (Jack) to faux Amanda. I remember in one episode in season 1, Nolan asked her to give up on her plans and enjoy her life. Sail away with Jack he advised. But I guess the quest to bring these people down has so consumed her, she can’t and won’t listen to sound advice. We see faux Amanda tell her again in Sunday’s episode that she can live her life. I just want to ask, what is the “reward” gained for revenge. She is young, has many years to live, yet she decides to spend her youthful years avenging the wrong done to her father.

Another revenge story unfolding is the Ryan brothers who want to avenge their father’s death. Since the person they assumed killed their father is dead, the want to take it out on his sons and grandson. A new baby is born into this web who knows nothing about what his grandfather presumably did but is in as much danger as his father and his uncle. All because some people want to avenge their father’s death.

Once again, I ask, to what end? What is the reward for avenging a wrong done? What do you gain? I know it isn’t easy to let go of hurt, but is it really worth it? If we all go about revenging, who would be left on earth biko? Or if God decides to “revenge”?

Side note:

Romans 12:17-21

Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honourable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Matthew 5:38-39

“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.

1 Thessalonians 5:15

See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone.

Parents as Custodians

Yay… am in a very happy mood this special month. Oh yes am gonna say it over and over again. Am so happy. Though am writing this with a very serious headache. Great month so far and one lesson I have learnt in these 3 days is Gossip is work. Listening to gossip is very tasking. Can sap the life out of a person. I try not to gossip (or gist as people would want to call it; though I wonder what the difference is as there is just a VERY thin line between gisting and gossip) but the experience I had yesterday/this morning has taught me to even now avoid places people gossip (though how to avoid the salon I can’t yet figure).

Back to the topic. I remember reading Proverbs 4: 20-22 (one of the days in Open Heavens) and part of what we learnt was while parenting is a challenge, parents are meant to be their children’s teacher, instructor, guide, coach. Then read 1st Samuel 2 and 3 sometime after that and kinda tried comparing Hannah and Eli; Eli not doing any of the above with his children considering that God gave them to him to be their custodian on earth while Hannah realized that every child was from God and her task was to take care of the child God’s way. The Bible I used (NIV Family Foundations) then ended with that was one of the reasons she could give Samuel back to God. That got me thinking. How many parents actually see themselves as custodians? Temp parents and not the god in their children’s lives? Whose will for that child must be followed and followed to the letter. How many parents can say to God in this child’s life, let your will be done? And not try force their will on the children even when it obviously isn’t the right way? How many parents fulfill their responsibilities and obligations to their children the right way? And how many of us children don’t take for granted what our parents do for us? Yes it is their responsibility but I think at some point we get to the stage we are like ehn it is their work na and though we might say thank you, it is just for saying it’s sake not because we really mean it. I might be wrong.

Had this roommate back in the University who was meant to graduate the year I entered but for her father’s many many runz with other girls. At some point the man stopped paying her fees and was paying the same amount into her “best friend’s” account. So babe had to drop out, work some months, come back, work and on till we both graduated together. I remember once (by then she was my roommate) and the man paid #10,000 into her account. See the way she was thanking and praying for him. I was shocked (didn’t know the full story then). The whole room went silent and then when she stepped out another roommate told us the story. Don’t get me wrong but I guess at some point I had started taken for granted my parents paying fees, feeding me, clothing me and all; though I said thank you, it was kind of like routine. I have this cousin who when she finishes eating says thank you (a trait especially amongst those who grew up in the East) and I think at some point it started creeping my mum out she had to ask her to stop and am like no, if she truly appreciates the fact that you fed her, let her say thank you. After all, there are children whose parents don’t feed them, don’t clothe them. If she truly wants to be thankful, leave her be. Now, I even say thank you to the cook when he makes food cuz I think what if he decides not to show up on a day I get back from work starving and I have to cook. The fact that he came and cooked is enough to be thankful for. Some can argue though that what he is paid for. I am just thankful.

One thing I keep praying to God about is for the grace to see the children He would give me as His children for me to take care of on earth and all that concerns them, I speak to their father (God) about. Not for me to decide how they would live their lives without first consulting Him. Not my will but His.

N.B: expect my birthday series from tomorrow.

Tada

Love or Suffocation?

So I got YB to write me an article and here you are. He thinks they might be controversial statements. Oh well, you decide. Hope you enjoy it.

*Read the first point and my brain kept seeing can’t. *smh*

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I recently read an article that got me thinking about love and all its little clichés. Being an analyst by profession, I decided to do some more reading and research based on several other articles about the subject of love and relationships. I found a lot of interesting stuff and I have collated them into one collective blog post.

The writer started out with a folktale. In the tale, an elderly king asks his three daughters how much they love him. The two older sisters deliver flowery speeches of filial adoration, but the youngest says only “I love you as meat loves salt.” The king was so insulted by this statement that he banished the youngest daughter and divided his kingdom between the older two, who promptly kicked him out of his Kingdom. He then sought refuge in the very house where his third daughter was working as a scullery maid. Recognizing her father, the daughter asked the cook to prepare his meal without salt. The king ate a few tasteless mouthfuls, then that all along it was my youngest daughter who really loved him.

The king chose style over substance and it led to disastrous results. This is a mistake that our generation still makes when it comes to the issue of love. Salt is unique in that its taste doesn’t cover up the food it seasons but enhances whatever flavor was there to begin with. Real love, real commitment, does the same thing. 

I will now proceed to make five statements which will probably get most readers wondering if I know what I’m talking about and will most likely spark some controversial comments. If this happens, then I know that I have made my point. Each of the statements is the opposite of what most of us see as loving commitment. But these are “meat loves salt” commitments, as necessary as they are unconventional. I believe that if I can say these to my Pookie Bear, then our relationship is likely to thrive.

Mind you, I can be the “mushiest” of lovers when the mood comes over me o! I am not saying people should not make romantic statements to their loved ones. All I am saying is you shouldn’t let them become the basis of your relationship because the fact is most of them are just word. Words that make us feel good (which is a good thing) but don’t build strong, lasting and viable relationships. I will now proceed and hope I don’t get crucified in the process.

I can live without you, no problem.

“Living without you is not living at all”. A statement which has probably been made (in many different variations) by many a love struck hopeless romantic. It sounds so tragically deep to say that losing your lover’s affections would make life unlivable. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone whose survival truly seemed to depend on your love? Someone who sat around waiting for you to make life bearable, who threatened to commit suicide if you ever broke up? Or have you found yourself on the grasping side of the equation, needing your partner the way you need oxygen? The emotion that fuels this kind of relationship isn’t love; it’s desperation. It can feel romantic at first, but over time it invariably fails to meet either partner’s needs. The statement “I can’t survive without you” reflects not adult attraction but infancy, a phase when we really would have died if our caretakers hadn’t stayed close by, continuously anticipating our needs. 

My love for you will definitely change.

My love for you will definitely change.

Most human beings seem instinctively averse to change. Once we’ve established some measure of comfort or stability, we want to nail it in place so that there’s no possibility of loss. It’s understandable, then, that the promise “My love for you will never change” is a hot seller. Unfortunately, this is another promise that is more likely to ruin a relationship than strengthen it.

The reason is that everything and everyone is constantly changing. We age, grow, learn, get sick, get well, gain weight, lose weight, find new interests, and drop old ones. And when two individuals are constantly changing, their relationship must adapt to survive. Many people fear that if their love is free to change, it will vanish. I believe the opposite is true. A love that is allowed to adapt to new circumstances will most likely be virtually indestructible. Passion relaxes into calm companionship, then flares again as we see new things to love about each other. In times of trouble and illness, obligation may become stronger than attraction until one day we realize that hanging in there through troubled times has bonded us more deeply than ever before. Like running water, changing love finds its way past obstacles. Freezing it in place makes it fragile, rigid, and all too likely to shatter.

You’re not everything I need.

Lovers claim that their romantic partner is the only person they need in their lives or that time together is the only activity necessary for emotional fulfillment. Humans are designed to live in groups, explore ideas, and constantly learn new skills. Trying to get all this input from one person is like trying to get a full range of vitamins by eating only ice cream.

People often feel threatened when their lovers develop passions for things other than romance or take up new hobbies. The statement “How come you have to spend three hours a week playing tennis (or gardening or painting)? Are you saying I’m not enough to keep you happy?” is often used. The fact is relationships aren’t enough to make us completely happy and yet we are inclined to pretend they are. I believe this is akin to poisoning relationships. Everybody has things they would like to do by themselves. Sacrificing all our individual needs doesn’t strengthen our relationships. Mutually supporting each other’s personal growth does.

I won’t always hold you close.

There’s a thin line between a romantic statement like “I love you so much, I want to share my life with you until death do us part” and “I love you so much that if you try to leave me, I’ll kill you.” People who don’t let their lover have their space love them the way spiders love flies; they love to capture them, wrap them in immobilizing webbing, and drain nourishment out of them gradually. I don’t know about you but that is not the kind of love I want.

You and I aren’t one.

I would like to say that I don’t totally agree with this statement because I strongly believe like the Bible tells me that I will leave my parents and cleave to my Pookie and become one with her. I simply used it for lack of a better idea of what to use.

Some people are chameleons who morph to match the ones they love. Some date chameleons, choosing partners who conform to their personality. Either way, those relationships cannot be healthy. In fact, they should not be classified as relationships at all. Denial of self in order to conform to out lovers’ needs will ultimately turn into resentment, poisoning the relationship.

Well, those are my thoughts on this particular subject. Feel free to crucify me if you so wish but bear in mind that the name of my blog is “My 2 Kobo” not yours. I hope Pookie won’t start wondering if I’m “The One” after all. Stay blessed and thanks for reading what has become my longest post ever.

Like he said, these statements are not in themselves bad, but when you make it d “basis”of your relationship…. Oh well….

Tada

Random

Once again, I don’t know what to call this post but I felt I should quickly share this.

Was at Digging Deep last Tuesday and the topic was 12 ways to unlocking the Bible (something of that sort). It was based on Rick Warren’s Bible Study Methods; 12 Ways you can unlock God’s Word (sure the ways are not exhausted). Still trying to get the book. Saw it online but not sure if it is the complete version.

Sometimes this week, I stumbled on another blog (def a blog to add to my blogroll) and the writer also mentioned something of that sorts and how like the Pastor mentioned that day, when we study, we shouldn’t just “read” but also try to draw “analogies” (if am allowed to use that word) from the passages we read. Read the article here.

I had almost “forgotten” about the message (asides looking up and downloading a pdf version of the book and trying to read it) till I read that blog. And I just knew that I stumbled on the blog for a reason.

Many times (like Rick and my Pastor said), we listen to a great sermon and wonder how the Pastor got all he preached on from that passage. At times, they are passages we have read over and over again and we just don’t get “anything different” from them. I can’t say the reason why it is so because am sure for some people it isn’t that they don’t pray or ask for the Holy Spirit to teach them and explain and expound the words they read neither is it that they don’t wait to hear from God. That has happened in the past wella. I read a passage, a devotional and I know somehow, it is just a literal understanding I have or I listen to a sermon and am like Whaow, have read this before, I didn’t see that. Have heard a lot of prepare your heart, pray and all but at times it just “isn’t working”. Whatever the reason maybe, I hope this book helps.

I for one decided to have a book for my Bible Study (had one in the past but somehow forgot about it; gonna search for the book)  and write things down as they come to mind. Not just write, but also read through the book everyday (yes, it has become my new novel). You would be amazed what the Holy Spirit tells you. And write them down.

I am also currently looking for a Bible Study partner, which I believe is another way to unlock God’s word. We pick a book of the Bible, a passage, a verse and explain what we understand by what we read. If in doubt about anything, we could refer to older, more mature Christians.

One thing struck me though, most of us Christians read the Bible to “debate” or “defend” it. God isn’t asking us to defend His word or debate it. He doesn’t need us to do that. Read it for doctrine (teaching), reproof, correction, and for instruction in righteousness

I am also working on getting more Bible tools. They are very beneficial in our study of God’s word.

Let’s enjoy reading the Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth (BIBLE).

Tada.