The thin line between……

Looking good and vanity……

Woman and beauty

How and when do we draw the line between the quest to look good (and maybe on point) and being vain? Saw the picture above in today’s edition of This Day Style and I quote part of  Ruth Osime’s “commentary”

I thought this was a truly insightful quote from a woman who epitomized elegance and style so, that even till date people emulate her….. But at  a certain stage in your life, aside from your physical appearance, your attraction also comes from your personality because it is about the impact you make on people…. It is this radiation people sense when they see you that makes them find you more appealing to the eye….

I have had this conversation a lot of times with people. Looks Vs personality. And I hear a lot of people say personality YET go with people who don’t have a great personality but look good. So I ask here LOOKS Vs PERSONALITY aka IWA (I think that’s the Yoruba word for it right?). What is your preference?

Back to the matter.

Why do we have a lot of people focused on “looking good” and ever on point rather than building good character? Don’t get me wrong. I am all for looking good. Looking fantastic. Helps your confidence and the list goes on. But when we start to pay so much attention to keeping up with the Joneses in a bid to look good, isn’t that bordering on vanity? I see a lot of women who are so into getting the latest shoes and bags and what have you. There is absolutely nothing wrong in buying. But were do you draw the line? The Loubs and Pradas and LVs and oh I heard a new one on Friday, Celine… When would we (females especially) start to focus on the right things? Why and when did we cross that very thin line between looking good and being vain? How do we even know when we cross that line?

Looks fade. People change. Character doesn’t (or at least shouldn’t). Let’s focus on the right things whilst still looking good. Exercise, eat right, do what it takes to look “on point” but watch out for that thin line.

That said, can someone please tell this madam to give us the final/concluding/last (whichever English fits) to the aso-ebi wahala. You can read part 1 here and part 2 here. Kindly remind her what we did to the last person who kept us on cruise like this….

By the way, what reply do you give to someone who tells you “you probably got the sexiest ass in xyz”.

Do have a lovely and fruitful week people.


2 thoughts on “The thin line between……

  1. LOL at the the last comment.. It’s a compliment, you say ‘thank you’.. *smile*

    I am definitely for character over looks. However, I do think that both are important and should be improved simultaneously.
    PS It’s ’cause Monroe was gorgeous that that statement carried more weight or she could even say it at all.. If she looked wonky, people would just shake their heads a little with a wry smile and say “we understand” lol xx

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