Lovers death, suicide and racist rants

Day in day out, week in week out, the news keeps getting worse. From people bathing others with acid or stabbing them to people committing suicide. For a very long time, these acts were “Western” in nature. It just can’t happen in Nigeria. Or so we thought. Now, a week doesn’t go without such news making it to the tabloids or gossip sites in Nigeria.

The stories vary. A guy asks a girl out, she refuses, next thing, she is either dead or struggling for life thanks to the man. Couples or live-in lovers have a fight and one of them ends up dead. It has become so rampant, a friend of mine recently commented “this love thing, na wa o. Shey we won’t just not get married like this”. Another, “so now we must say yes to every guy that asks us out to avoid acid bath?” Like these friends, these news definitely scares the hell out of me. Left, right and center, you just don’t know what to expect or what news you would hear next. Funny thing is it isn’t even just lovers that get the acid bath or get stabbed. A nurse recently had acid poured on her by one of her HIV patients. Are we safe any longer? Yes the world is coming to an end but this def is scary. Do we decide not to marry or avoid guys or girls at all cost? Or like my friend said say yes to every guy (like that is even possible); cause you don’t even know the mental state of the person next to you. What is going on in his/her head? Whether they would snap the next minute.

Suicide. Another prevalent story in the news. Not so far away from us any more. Not so Western any longer. From youths to well-made, rich adults. Two recent issues; Gary Speed (who was full of life the day before and even appeared on a show) and the Nigerian man who committed suicide a couple of weeks back. He actually wrote 3 letters, to his family, landlord and Pastor. Sends his wife to go deliver the Pastor’s letter and before she gets back, he is dead. It is very easy to condemn them. Don’t they think of others? Couldn’t they seek help? We can ask a lot of questions but it still doesn’t stop it happening. We can blame it on some witches from their villages but in all honesty, how many times do we actually talk to people about how we feel? How many times do we listen to people talk about themselves? How many times do we care to find out what that person is going through? Yes, suicide is sin. And we can preach they would go to hell from now till eternity (that’s what my Bible tells me) but it doesn’t and won’t stop people from killing themselves. A friend had this up as his facebook status a couple of days back “Suicide is only a long-term solution to a short-term problem”. I don’t believe there is a problem that has no solution. Just share it with people you trust. We have heard stories of people tweeting they were suicidal and they got help. Think Demi Moore was involved in one a while back. Help in every little way you can. I wonder and I actually need suggestions on how to reach out to such suicidal people. Some days back Pastor Adeboye recounted a story in Open Heavens about a lady who comes to see him. Before she enters, he was instructed to hug her and he was going to refuse because not only had he warned Pastors now to do it, it wasn’t right. But he did. She then breaks down in tears and tells him she was going to commit suicide but decided to see him for the last time before she did. I don’t have a solution to this suicide, depression and frustration wahala but in our own little ways let’s try help those around us. Truly care and show concern for those people around us. We don’t know what they are going through even with the smile plastered on their faces. It is well.

Youtube has been buzzing with so much racist rants videos. I am not going to start my own rant against those women but one question I ask is “Should we Blacks, Hispanics, Arabs, Asians and other ‘minority’ groups be scared?” Do we have to keep watching our backs from now on? Yes, UK has had a very high rate of murders committed especially against Blacks but with this new wave of rants, do I see it sky-rocketing?

It isn’t all bad news people.

Happy new month people. Last month of the year. Yipee.

Like that old CAC song says

Odun lo so pin o Baba rere (The year is running to an end, good/merciful God/Father)

Fi so re sowa o (Protect us)

On ti o pawa lekun o lodun tun tun (What would make us weep in the New Year)

Ma je ko sele si wa o Baba rere (Don’t let it happen good/merciful God/Father)

(I sincerely hope I got it right)

The good Lord who has brought us this far would bring us to the end. By His grace, in a month’s time we would be screaming Happy New Year. After November and February, December is my next favourite month of the year. Yes because of Christmas. Who doesn’t love Christmas? So the countdown begins 24 days…. Do have a lovely Christmas and a wonderful New Year.

And 21 days to the close of this donation. Please help bring smiles to peoples faces.

Tada

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4 thoughts on “Lovers death, suicide and racist rants

  1. Sad Sad Sad – but we need to be out brother’s keeps. Listen to people… you never know who’s destiny you are altering.

    thanks for the lyrics of that song, i have always wondered!

    love December too! woohoo.. enjoy

  2. Truth is, many times people do not care or simply do not think our problems are big enough to warrant our worry.
    Sometimes we are too proud to agree we have problems and try to sort it out in our own ways
    I like to laugh, I like to love, I like to live, but I have been suicidal (briefly), at a time when it seems I had so many problems and no one I could relate with. I used to joke back then that maybe if I was white, I would have done it and that suicide is not a thing for black men.
    Seems I am being proved wrong daily. God help us all.

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