Monthly Archives: July 2011


Once again, I don’t know what to call this post but I felt I should quickly share this.

Was at Digging Deep last Tuesday and the topic was 12 ways to unlocking the Bible (something of that sort). It was based on Rick Warren’s Bible Study Methods; 12 Ways you can unlock God’s Word (sure the ways are not exhausted). Still trying to get the book. Saw it online but not sure if it is the complete version.

Sometimes this week, I stumbled on another blog (def a blog to add to my blogroll) and the writer also mentioned something of that sorts and how like the Pastor mentioned that day, when we study, we shouldn’t just “read” but also try to draw “analogies” (if am allowed to use that word) from the passages we read. Read the article here.

I had almost “forgotten” about the message (asides looking up and downloading a pdf version of the book and trying to read it) till I read that blog. And I just knew that I stumbled on the blog for a reason.

Many times (like Rick and my Pastor said), we listen to a great sermon and wonder how the Pastor got all he preached on from that passage. At times, they are passages we have read over and over again and we just don’t get “anything different” from them. I can’t say the reason why it is so because am sure for some people it isn’t that they don’t pray or ask for the Holy Spirit to teach them and explain and expound the words they read neither is it that they don’t wait to hear from God. That has happened in the past wella. I read a passage, a devotional and I know somehow, it is just a literal understanding I have or I listen to a sermon and am like Whaow, have read this before, I didn’t see that. Have heard a lot of prepare your heart, pray and all but at times it just “isn’t working”. Whatever the reason maybe, I hope this book helps.

I for one decided to have a book for my Bible Study (had one in the past but somehow forgot about it; gonna search for the book)  and write things down as they come to mind. Not just write, but also read through the book everyday (yes, it has become my new novel). You would be amazed what the Holy Spirit tells you. And write them down.

I am also currently looking for a Bible Study partner, which I believe is another way to unlock God’s word. We pick a book of the Bible, a passage, a verse and explain what we understand by what we read. If in doubt about anything, we could refer to older, more mature Christians.

One thing struck me though, most of us Christians read the Bible to “debate” or “defend” it. God isn’t asking us to defend His word or debate it. He doesn’t need us to do that. Read it for doctrine (teaching), reproof, correction, and for instruction in righteousness

I am also working on getting more Bible tools. They are very beneficial in our study of God’s word.

Let’s enjoy reading the Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth (BIBLE).


Kids should be banned from public places

Hmmmmmm. You read right. In some parts of the US of A (freak I sound like one of those Nollywood peeps); USA o jare, they are proposing (no, some have even started implementing) that young kids should be banned from public places. O ti o. Airlines, hotels, grocery stores, cinemas, and restaurants. Seriously? Parents with small kids wouldn’t be allowed to fly first class (na wa o, I get the money I no fit spend am because I get small pikin).

I get that some children can be so annoying you feel like beating the fear of God into them (case in point, there was this kid yesterday I felt like spanking the “demons” out of him”) but banning them from going out? Like a mom said As a mom of a three-year-old, I’ll be the first to admit that my child doesn’t always behave the way I’d like her to when we’re in public. Personally, as parents we are hyper-aware when our daughter is misbehaving, and in an effort to avoid stares and glares, we remove our child from the situation until she calms down. Do all parents do this? No. Do some parents let their children run wild? Unfortunately. But is it possible to control everything your kid does? No! They are kids, not little robots.”

We were once children na. And am sure some of us acted worse. So why the discrimination. To even think not only is it being considered, it has been implemented by Malaysia airlines and some others. *smh*. In short, they are banning mothers from going out. Fathers sef in some cases. Orisirisi ni America wan yi. It is just funny. Soon Churches would ban parents with small children and babies from coming to church or they would hold separate services for them.

Yes, I agree children can be very VERY frustrating. If they said they were designating an area or special days in stores for such parents to come shop… hmmm, that sef no make sense; if something finishes before the designated day nko? Well for cinemas, why should children be taken to go watch movies that aint children-friendly. Get a sitter or no go watch movies. I get asking parents to leave restaurants when their children go bonkers; you can’t ask them to leave the plane but designating an area for them to sit…. hmmmm. Ko da o.. If you are banning nosiy kids, please ban noisy adults too o… Kapish. Maybe having “kids area” would help (I know churches that do that; parents sit at the back; makes it even better and easier for them to go out with the kids especially when they start getting noisy). Parents sha shouldn’t be made to feel like second class citizens because they have young children.

I don’t know the solution to this issue o but banning kids is a no-no. Not proper, not right. Well who can blame them. With the rate of “ibajeness” those kids exhibit. If na 9ja now, just 1 abara from the mother, the child go comport (though children of nowadays in this country sef, dey fear me).

I don’t know how mothers (and fathers) in those places would survive o. I wish them well. All da best o. It is well with you all…. and your children.


20th July, 2011

Not only have I aged today, I have lost more weight. That am sure of.

I really wish today never happened. Seriously craving my bed right now. Hoping to sleep the rest of the day away.

Thanks ya all that combined to frustrate and annoying me today… To make my day as miserable as you planned (thought I was holding up well and I actually did, till I couldn’t bear it). Especially for those of you who didn’t let me close early.

Seemed like the day was just not gonna be it. From waking up late (thanks to NLC) till the very last minute I spent at work. And just when I thought it was over, you decide to call. You just had to call this night right? *smh*. Have had rough days but 20th July, 2011, you surpass them all. You are in a class of your own. New definition of “rough day”.

Thanks o. So much thanks. Thanks for making me cry.

And a big thank you and a big hug to all of you who did your best to make me happy. The hugs (though virtual) are very much appreciated and needed. Glad to have friends I can turn to.

Time to sleep 20th July, 2011 away. Don’t want you again.

Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

A poem I stumbled on while in training school and I practically forgot about about. Well, till yesterday night. Great poem and gives us some “principles” to live by. Some parts of the poem struck a chord and I would try to “interpret” them the way I understand it.

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.


As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons (Hebrews 12:14, Romans 12:18).

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others (Learn to listen to others, respect their opinions but don’t hesitate to say yours as clearly as possible with out ambiguity).

even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. (There is a lesson to learn from everybody, every event and circumstance; even the supposedly “not smart” ones; LEARN all you can).

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit (Read Proverbs well well; they fit injure person; send person to early grave. Chai. Avoid them @ all cost).

Be yourself. (Very self explanatory. BE YOURSELF. Not like your father, your mother, your sister, your brother, your friend, that man that lives down the road, some public figure, some role model. Just yourself. Kapish).

Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, (If you no like person, no form say you like am, but be as nice as possible and tolerant; there is something called love and you would “find it”, stop being skeptical, negative, pessimistic about love).

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth (Let your age reflect your maturity. Don’t be 50 and still be acting and dressing like you are 18).

But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. (Fear not…).

be gentle with yourself.  (Be kind to yourself, when you can, treat yourself; stop being harsh on yasef).

You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; (Don’t agree with this o. I am a child of God. A lot greater than trees and stars).

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should (Whether you like it or not, the world is changing; the only other constant in life asides God is CHANGE).

The last two paragraphs sums it all up, be at peace with God and with yourself. The world isn’t perfect. Life is not FAIR. That wouldn’t change. Don’t expect it to. To survive, you gotta love God, be at peace with him, build yourself, love yourself and live right. Like Solomon said in Ecclesiastes 12:13 “Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole [duty] of man (NIV).

Btw, someone defined a cynic as a man who, when he smells flowers, looks around for a coffin. So apt. #Word

So Random

Was wondering why the title seemed familiar…. then it hit me… And don’t ask me what it is….

Well, we had this conversation a while back at work (covers face); while we were meant to be working shey? on Naija guys and their toasting skills especially the random guy whose duty is to stop you on the road and chat. General consensus (from the ladies) was it is just so wrong for a guy to stop a chic on the road and start chatting. For whatever reason, it is a NO-NO. Don’t ever try it. Never mind the many guys who were trying to justify the silly action.

Stumbled on a blog and just couldn’t stop laughing cause the babe’s categorization of “toasters” is just so ON POINT. Trust me, have seen enough of the Pedestrian toaster (the ones who stop any girl on the road, whether na witch o, ogbanje, snake, human being, na so so “excuse me, you look familiar”; “hello baby”- I resemble pikin?; “Princess”; “Beautiful”; “Angel”; like duh, that’s so disgusting and annoying; it is bad enough you approached me, you then start yarning dust or those who are driving by and decide to stop. Do I look like a hooker? a boy toy?; don’t give me the way you dress story cause personally have worn a turtle neck long gown and these agbayas stopped one evening asking me where I was going. I know you guys watch a lot of Africa Magic but not every girl walking down the street needs your help) and the On-the-job toaster (bankers o. You enter a bank and they start toasting. I learnt not to foju sile (literal translation, no leave eye for ground; one of those Yoruba words that translating them is pretty hard) for such people. Waiting to see the Accidental toaster (God help you o if you accidentally run into me and my groceries spill o), The one who has read the encyclopaedia of pick up lines and The pathetic gadget show-off.

Thought to share a note I wrote in 2007 of a Pedestrian toaster (twas titled 9ja guys just got bolder). Pardon my shorthand. Was so upset that day I had to vent my anger on something as fast as I could. Seems things haven’t changed since then.

Yes. Dey even have d guts 2 accuse us of knowin dem wen dey ve neva seen us b4. let me gist u y i said 9ja boys just got bolder. na so so i dey waka 1 afternoon o. pidgin english aint ma type. let moi stick 2 d 1 i know. ok lets see. 1 lovely afternoon i decide 2 go 2 barcellos @ d galleria 2 get sumthin 4 ma rumblin stomach wen sum1 calls me “excuse me, sum1 is callin u”. ok, i turn thinkin it is sum1 4rm ma office. only 4 d guy 2 point 2 sum1 @ d silverbird car park. i think 2 ma self “do i know dis person”. ok o. i moved closer, the fence as a barrier btwn us. then i hear “don’t u know me”. i say 2 ma self “sure hell i do”. i asked him “have i ever met u”. he replys “am engr. kunle from globacom”. i say 2 ma self “like am supposed 2 start jumpin cuz u work in glo wen u aint even paddy adenuga”. he replies “dont pretend like u dont know me”. am like “i have neva met u”. and he goes gagga and is like “stop pretendin like u dont know me”. 2 avoid creatin a scene, i told him 2 take chill pills and am like ” i hope dis is not a case of mistaken identity” (see me thinking na sane person). he is like “no. i know u. it is you. not sum1 else”. am like ok then, let me play along. so i reply “do u know my name, where did we meet”. he replies ” i dont know ur name” and avoids answering d question bout where we met. i ova luk it cuz i know he is a joker. and he goes “am serious. it is u i know”. i say 2 ma self “wat kinda clown is dis, dis hot afternoon?”. he tries 2 say sum thingys but i aint concentrating no longer. i tried 2 act distracted and he says ” ok then. since u want 2 kip pretending. anyway, lets catch up on old times. can u wait. i want 2 lock up ma car. i wld meet u inside d galleria”. trust me, i walked  straight in2 galleria. i rili dont know if he rili thot i wld wait 4 him 2 walk wif me in2 d galleria. but if he thot so, then he must b a big fool. anywayz guysssssssssssssssss. i dont know wat kinda idiot u think we gals r. u know d old song used 2 b “i knew u 4rm sumwhere/ ur face looks kinda familar/ have we met b4”- fave guys chat up lines. now it is “u know me”. no longer “i know u”. guyyyyyyyyyyyyyysssssssssssss. grow up. do u think we r toys or kids dat u can play wit their intelligence. know sum gals r dat daft 2 fall 4 such. but dey no dey luk face. i resemble mugu?????????? anyway sha big up 2 d dumb 9ja guys who ve refused 2 grow up. we ladies need and desire 2 b treated wit respect. u guys shld grow up. wise up alrite. gals need mature guys not sum1 who cant approach a gal wit courage and confidence but has 2 use stupid lines like “i know u”. abeg. spare moi.well i gotta sign out.

Someone did ask if guys (pedestrian toasters) don’t approach chics on the road, where else do they meet people?