Monthly Archives: May 2011

Can a man cheat alone?

Silly topic? Topic doesn’t even make sense? Stale? Well, that’s what I feel like writing about. And don’t worry, this is not going to be a long post. Aint gonna go into the whole story of why men cheat. I aint a man so I can’t say. This was actually a question posed by a friend when the Sperminator’s story came out

As we all know the media has been filled with a lot of stories in recent times of cheating husbands especially in the US.. Wayne Rooney, John Terry, John Edwards, Bill Clinton, Tiger Woods, Arnie the Terminator. Or even more recently, our Super Injunction guy (lips sealed). Lol.

Makes me wonder why for most part the women (the ones outside) are not castigated for sleeping with another woman’s husband. Don’t get me wrong. I aint absolving the men of wrong doing and God forbid such happens to me, but we always all make it seem like it is the man’s fault. Like it doesn’t take two to tango. Like the man forced himself on the lady. Like the woman was so powerless, she couldn’t say NO. Makes matters worse, the women make money out of telling their “stories” after being paid (some of them were paid) for sleeping with the guys o. Especially in the UK and the US, I just think these women want their 15 minutes of fame and get as much money as they can from it. And that is really annoying, cheapening and disgusting.

I definitely am against cheating because I don’t see any reason whatsoever why any man or woman should cheat on their spouse/ girlfriend or boyfriend. It is just not right. But before we still blaming the man and casting stones let us remember that he didn’t do it alone. Some woman agreed to it also. So when next you wanna blame the man, rain all sorts of curses on him, analyse it from different angles, ask why he left his beautiful and caring wife (who most times is always finer than the babe outside), please include the woman who couldn’t say No in your insults. Afterall, we women are our own worst enemies. If we WOMEN all learn to say No to cheating husbands and boyfriends (you all say it is impossible ba?) then let’s see if they would stop cheating on their wives or turn to other guys (gross) or animals (even worse).

Men don’t cheat alone.

I Want a Guy

Once again, I am experiencing a “writer’s block”. I just don’t have anything to write.

Well, so am reproducing a note my sister put up on facebook which generated 71 comments and 16 likes (and on her blog). Okay, am jealous. Not sure any of my notes have gotten that much comments. Anywayz, hope a guy gets to put up what he wants someday. Would be fun to read the male side to this. Seems like a fairy tale… Some are very realistic and some…. *shrugs* would be nice to have. Wonder if it is possible to have a guy who has most of all these qualities… I know ONE.. Do you?


 I want a guy…

…who would think I was beautiful, if I dressed trashy it was classy      

…who would move my hair away from my eyes and then kiss me, 

…hold my hand in line at the mall and make all the girls jealous, 

…who’s very smart, intelligent and compassionate

…who would sing to me at random moments

 …who buys me the littlest gifts over every achievement

…who doesn’t feel anyway inferior because of me or what I’ve achieved

…who encourages me to work

…who stands his ground for what is right

…who corrects me so lovingly when I do wrong

…who tells me he’s sorry when he upsets me 

…who’s not egoistic

…who’s ready to drop his pride for the sake of our love

…who is very confident of himself but definitely not proud

…who’s very principled

…who wouldn’t look at any other girl because I’m all he wants

…who would let me sleep on his chest

…who would get mad at someone if they called me ugly or was mean to me,

…who would call me 3 times a day if he went away, 

…who would let me gossip to him and would just smile and agree with everything I said.

…who would get along with all my friends

…who would make fun of me

…who would look me in the eye and tell me something serious that was also funny and makes me promise not to laugh

…who would stop having dogs because i don’t like them

….who’s just like my dad 

…who would make me laugh like no one else could. 

…who I smile about every time I think of him

…who would still want to listen to me even though I sing really off-key

…who, when I’m really sleepy, would wake me up and go with me to vigil

…who goes to church without any coercion because he enjoys worship with other people

…who respects me and is not afraid to show it

…who is not afraid to show his emotions

…who pulls his own weight

…who opens the door for me when we go out

…who listens to everything I say and is very sensitive to what I’ve not said

…who tells me everything that’s going on with him

….who trusts me so much

…who is committed to me

…who tells me exactly where he is at any point in time

…who enjoys reading the Bible with me

…who would never be afraid to say  “I love you” in front of his friends 

…who would count the stars with me at night and make me laugh like no one else could and 

Most importantly, I want someone who would be my best friend and would never break my heart.

[***NB: It’s NOT my list for checking guys out o, its more like fantasy but seriously i want a guy who at least has some of these qualities ***]

I would miss you

You never can tell how you day would start and how it would end.

What news would change your whole day?

When you think of death, there are some people you just never link them and death.

Lost a dear one this evening. I write this with so much pain. How I got home this evening, I don’t know but God did drive my car home.

All I can say is as unbelievable as it is because I still saw you on Sunday. We all thanked God together for a new month. I can’t question God. I can’t ask why. I can’t even imagine what your husband and children feel at the moment. I would be selfish to want you to remain here when God says it is time up. I knew you for a little over a year but in that short while you changed my life.

I remember telling your son what a fine mother-in-law you would be and any woman who marries any of your sons should count herself lucky she has you as a mother. You were more than a mother.

I remember your prayers before, during and after my operation. The calls, the texts, the concerned look on your face. I remember the cloth you sewed for me and the fact that you asked me to take it at a lesser price (at a time I was broke). That was an answer to a prayer though you never knew.

Is it the after fellowship food. God knows how much I looked forward to it and how much we felt your absence anytime you traveled. Just when I was looking forward to your birthday on 22nd and wondering what I would get for you. I remember so many things. The strong bonds between you and your husband was an inspiration to us; married and unmarried. You taught us to take our Bible just the way it is. No additions; no subtractions; no rationalizing. You took peoples burdens as if it were yours. Always praying for us. I can go on and on but blurred eyes wouldn’t let me. I wonder how I would sleep this night.

I can’t be grateful to God enough for making me meet you. Even as I write this in tears, I know all is well. I know God would comfort us all. It started raining some few hours after you passed on. I guess Heaven is welcoming one of theirs home. Yes, we weep. We cry. We would miss you. But I can’t wait to see you again at our Master’s bosom.We shall not mourn because we know you are resting. Your legacies live on and we would always remember you.

Good night mum because you deserve to be called so.